About five months ago, I posted across every platform I have, including LinkedIn, YouTube, X, and Substack, and asked people to send me questions for a massive Q&A when I reached 60,000 YouTube subscribers.
I have now quickly surpassed 61,000, and until recently, I had not answered a single one. So I finally sat down, opened my laptop, pulled up the questions, and started working through them.
What came out of that process did not feel like a Q&A. It felt more like a mirror.
The questions forced me to look at the person I was when I got into cybersecurity at 18, the person I have become over the last six years, and the person I am still trying to become now. They made me think about ambition, comparison, faith, artificial intelligence, content creation, and the kind of life I am building around all of it.
But one question sat underneath almost every answer:
What do you do when the same qualities that gave you an edge also begin to cost you something?
The Balance I Still Haven’t Found
The first question was simple:
Do you enjoy your work-life balance?
No? Honestly, I don’t know.
To be more accurate, I am still figuring out whether I have one.
I started my career at 18. Cybersecurity has occupied almost my entire adult life. In the beginning, I was obsessed. I pulled all-nighters. I studied constantly. I learned everything I could get my hands on.
At the time, I did not really think about work-life balance because there was not much of a life outside of work to balance it against.
That obsession accelerated my career.
It also meant I went four or five years without taking a real vacation.
For a long time, I saw that intensity as an advantage. In many ways, it was. It helped me build skills quickly. It opened doors. It gave me the confidence to enter rooms I probably would not have entered otherwise.
But the things that give you an edge early in your career can become harder to carry as your life expands.
I just got married. I am entering a new season. My time is no longer mine alone.
My wife tells me I am a workaholic, and she is right.
I have not cracked the code on balance. I am not even sure balance is the right goal. Life rarely distributes itself evenly. Some seasons require more from your career. Others require more from your family, your faith, or your health.
Maybe the real question is not whether everything is perfectly balanced.
Maybe it is whether the right things are receiving your attention at the right time in the season of life you’re in.
I am still learning that.
The Career Plan I Outgrew
Another question asked whether this is what I imagined when I first chose cybersecurity.
I turn 25 next year. I have been working in this field since I was 18 and thinking about it seriously since I was 15.
If people can have midlife crises, I may be somewhere in the middle of a quarter-life one.
When I chose cybersecurity, I had very specific ideas about what success would look like. At that age, career plans feel permanent. You pick a direction, commit to it, and quietly assume that changing your mind later would mean you failed.
My goal was simple.
I wanted to become a CISO. Today, I have almost no desire to become a Chief Information Security Officer. At least right now, I would rather continue growing as an individual contributor.
That does not mean the younger version of me was wrong. He just did not have enough information yet.
Some of what I imagined has come true. I get to work on genuinely interesting problems. I have worked close to the edge of new technology. I have contributed to things with real global impact.
But I have also started wondering whether there are other things I am uniquely built for. More importantly, whether there are other things I am specifically purposed for.
I still enjoy cybersecurity. I am not trying to manufacture some dramatic identity crisis. But I have been allowing myself to sit with other passions instead of dismissing them because they do not fit the plan I created as a teenager.
We often treat persistence as the ability to stay on the same path forever.
Yes, sometimes persistence looks like staying. However, sometimes it looks like being honest enough to admit that your definition of success has changed.
Faith Isn’t Separate From the Work
A few people asked how I integrate my work into a faith-led life.
Last year, I started a separate channel called The Godly Engineer to explore that exact question: what it means to apply faith to a career in engineering, and what I have learned as a young Christian working in technology.
I will not repeat all of those lessons here.
The important thing is that faith is not a separate category in my life.
It is not cybersecurity over here, content creation over there, relationships somewhere else, and faith added on top when convenient.
Faith is the lens through which I try to understand all of it. It affects how I think about ambition. It changes how I define success. It shapes how I approach money, generosity, influence, and responsibility.
It also forces me to ask questions that a purely career-driven framework would never ask.
Not only, How far can I go?
But also, Who am I becoming while I get there?
Not only, What can I build?
But also, What am I supposed to do with what I have been given?
That distinction matters to me more now than it did when I started.
Aspiration Without Competition
One question asked how I stay ahead of my peers.
The honest answer is that I no longer think much about “staying ahead”.
There is a healthy version of looking at someone else’s life and thinking, That person did something incredible. I want to stretch myself in that direction.
That is aspiration. Maybe inspiration. Competition is different. Competition turns someone else’s progress into evidence that you are falling behind.
The problem is that you rarely know what you are actually comparing. You do not know someone else’s advantages. You do not know their background, relationships, private struggles, responsibilities, or what they sacrificed to reach the milestone you can see.
You are comparing the full weight of your life to the most visible parts of theirs.
People have watched my career grow over the years without seeing the depression, anxiety, unhealthy habits, coping, and personal battles that existed behind some of those milestones.
They saw the promotions, certifications, job titles, and subscriber counts. They never saw the cost.
That is why I stopped trying to become a better version of somebody else.
I am trying to become a better version of myself. Soooooo cliché, I know.
There is still room to admire people. There is still value in allowing someone else’s work to challenge you.
But aspiration sharpens you. Competition will wear you out.
Learning the difference has given me more peace than staying ahead ever could.
AI Isn’t Eliminating the Work. It Is Changing What Counts.
Someone asked what I believe is the most AI-resistant path into offensive security.
I am not an ethical hacker, so I say this with some humility. But my read is that AI will not eliminate offensive security.
It will redefine the work.
One path is becoming deeply knowledgeable about AI systems themselves: how they work, how they fail, how they can be manipulated, and how they expand the attack surface.
Another is becoming the kind of operator who knows how to use AI as leverage to move faster, test more systems, analyze more data, and challenge both traditional and AI-native environments.
But I think the deeper shift is happening somewhere else.
Frontier models are becoming increasingly capable of finding vulnerabilities.
As vulnerability discovery gets faster and cheaper, the value of simply finding more flaws may begin to fall.
The more important question becomes:
How quickly can we fix them?
Can we distinguish the critical issues from the noise? Can we understand the root cause? Can we redesign the system so the same class of vulnerability does not keep reappearing? Can we make the fix without breaking everything around it?
AI may help with those problems too.
But someone still has to understand the system deeply enough to know whether the proposed solution is correct, safe, and durable. That is why I think the role of the cybersecurity engineer is becoming more explicitly a problem-solving role.
Some of those problems will be cybersecurity problems.
Some will not.
The durable skill is not simply knowing how to find a vulnerability. It is knowing how to understand the system, fix the weakness, prevent recurrence, and keep the organization moving while you do it.
As long as you can solve meaningful problems for people and organizations, you will remain valuable.
I share more of my thoughts in this newsletter issue:
Learn the System Before You Defend It
Another question asked how to move from SOC fundamentals into detection engineering or cloud security without rushing or burning out.
For detection engineering, become a genuinely strong SOC analyst first.
Become a strong investigator.
Strong investigators develop strong detection instincts because they understand the evidence. They know what logs are available, what normal behavior looks like, what malicious activity looks like, and which signals actually matter during an investigation.
Detection engineering is an extension of that judgment.
It is the process of taking what an experienced investigator knows and turning it into something repeatable, testable, and scalable.
Cloud security requires a similar principle, but a different foundation.
You cannot secure what you do not understand.
Before trying to become a cloud security professional, become competent with the cloud itself. Understand how resources are deployed, how workloads communicate, how identities receive access, how systems scale, and how they are torn down.
Learn IAM beyond the definitions. Understand how permissions are evaluated, inherited, misconfigured, abused, and constrained.
Learn the system before you try to defend it. That order matters.
There is a temptation in cybersecurity to rush toward the word security before understanding the technology underneath it. That inevitably creates shallow expertise.
Fundamentals may feel slower, but they are usually the fastest path to becoming useful.
Content Opened Doors. It Did Not Carry Me Through Them.
Someone asked whether content creation helped me land the roles I have had.
It would be disingenuous to say no.
It would also be inaccurate to say yes without qualification.
Content has helped me build credibility. It has helped me meet people. It has probably helped my résumé receive a second look. It has absolutely opened doors.
But it has not earned me a single offer by itself.
I still had to interview for every role. I have also bombed plenty of interviews while having tens of thousands of people following my work online. An audience does not compensate for weak fundamentals.
Visibility may get you into the room. You still have to prove that you belong there.
For the people who asked how I grew a YouTube channel to nearly 61,000 subscribers with what has mostly been a one-person operation, the answer is not glamorous.
Consistency, improving the quality over time, understanding what my specific audience needs, and being willing to give people the answers they need to hear, not only the answers they want to hear.
The algorithm matters. Packaging matters. Titles and thumbnails matter.
But trust compounds longer than likes, subscribes, and clicks do.
Stewardship Over Hustle
One question genuinely made me stop.
How do you balance stewardship, generosity, and gratitude with climbing the corporate ladder, chasing higher compensation, and avoiding greed?
My belief is that this career was given to me. I am managing it. I do not fully own it.
That is what stewardship means to me: taking responsibility for what you have been given, caring for it well, and multiplying its impact.
Content creation is one expression of that. It allows me to take the lessons, opportunities, and knowledge I have received and use them to help people at a scale I could never reach one conversation at a time.
Generosity is another part of stewardship. To me, generosity means creating enough margin in your life that giving is intentional rather than accidental. It means planning your finances, so you have room to help people, instead of waiting to see what remains after every personal desire has been satisfied.
And the antidote to greed is gratitude. Not complacency. Gratitude.
It is possible to desire growth while being thankful for where you are. It is possible to pursue a promotion without allowing the outcome to determine your peace. It is possible to earn more without allowing money to become the only evidence that your life is moving forward.
Climbing the proverbial ladder from desperation will exhaust you.
Climbing from a place of gratitude allows you to keep your footing, even when you do not receive the title, raise, or opportunity you wanted.
There Is No Perfect Age to Begin
Someone asked whether 28 is too late to start a career in cybersecurity.
No.
I have received the same question from people in their 30s and 40s. It is not too late.
Your path may look different from that of someone who started at 18. You may have different responsibilities, less free time, or more risk associated with making a career transition. Those realities should shape your plan, not automatically disqualify you.
Starting later does not mean starting with nothing. You bring your previous experience, maturity, relationships, judgment, and understanding of the world with you. Those things count.
Build a realistic plan. Accept that it may take time. Then go after it.
Final Thoughts
This was the last weekend before my wedding.
I had a broken microwave to replace and what felt like a hundred small tasks waiting for me before the ceremony, but I wanted to finally answer these questions before life became busier.
Looking back at all of my responses, I noticed one thread running through them.
The qualities that helped many of us build an edge, including the obsession, hunger, curiosity, discipline, and willingness to learn the hard way, are powerful. They can accelerate a career, but they can also consume a life if left unmanaged.
The challenge is not to abandon your edge. It is learning how to steward it.
You have to know when to push and when to rest. When to stay committed to the path and when to question where it is leading. When ambition is sharpening you and when comparison is hollowing you out.
Technology will continue to change. Artificial intelligence will reshape the work. New roles will emerge. Old ones will disappear. Life will move through seasons that require different versions of you.
But the ability to understand difficult systems, solve meaningful problems, and adapt without losing yourself will never go out of style.
Maybe work-life balance is not something you eventually solve. Maybe it is a question you have to keep answering as your life changes. And maybe the real question is not whether you still have the edge that got you here.
Maybe it is whether you have learned how to carry it without letting it cut everything else around you.
💭 What is the one question about your career—or your life—that you have been avoiding because you already suspect the answer?
That may be the question worth sitting with next.
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Until Next Time
That’s it for this one.
As always, keep learning, keep building, and keep thinking deeply about the systems we’re trusted to defend.
See you in the next one.
~ Day 💙
Man this one really hit home for me. As someone with similar time in the field with my own highs and lows, this was really impactful on me. I think this level of self-reflection at an earlier part in your career in the grand scheme of things is a really good indicator that you’re on the right track, and in good hands. Really appreciate you sharing these thought!